“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”
Uh, no. Not really. Words hurt a lot, and there are plenty of times I’d rather deal with physical pain from a broken bone than the internal pain and hurt that sometimes comes from words, no matter how well intentioned they are. In fact, those can hurt more than ones that are obviously vicious.
It’s been suggested that I get counseling to help me with my weight situation. One person phrased it as “have you considered seeing a counsellor to figure out why you can’t commit to losing weight?” It wasn’t said to cause me hurt but I haven’t been able to shake the words off all week. They did hurt, partly because there is truth to it but also because of the judgment that filled the words.
I know that the words were well intentioned, but I haven’t been able to shake them off. They haven’t motivated, they just stung and burrowed deep. And my reaction to hurt is not to go eat salad.