In the back of my closet I have some clothes leftover from a smaller life, things that meet the Vickie test of “would I buy it again?” At this point the only things left are out of season clothes, having already tried on and am wearing or gave away winter things.
One of those favorite clothes is an emerald green 2-part dress, a simple tank dress with a cute little short-sleeved jacket with some embroidery in matching fabric. I loved that dress and wore it often because 1) it was cute, 2) it was comfortable and breathable, and 3) I look fabulous in that color. I bought it 6 years ago when I was at my lowest weight, some 30 lbs lower than where I am now, and even wore it when my WW leader and I were on local TV filming a July 4th segment on tips for watching your food while at holiday picnics and parties.
I have no idea how this happened. I mean, I’m still 30 lbs over that 2004 weight – but my body shape has been shifting a lot in the months since my surgery. I haven’t really lost any weight in the last month but it’s fallen off anyway – I’ve lost 2″ in my hips in the last MONTH. Believe me, I’m not complaining, but my brain is having a hard time wrapping itself around the fact that my body doesn’t look the way my brain thinks it does after years at the high end of the plus sizes.
People who are very large need to lose a LOT of weight before anyone notices, and that’s hard. We wear those X sizes (1X-5X or more) and each covers 2 dress sizes if they actually made dresses for people who wear a straight 30 (they don’t). So you can easily wear the same thing through a 35-45lb loss, assuming it was a bit on the snug side in the first place. Most of my big clothes were relatively shapeless anyway, since I didn’t want to flaunt my original shape.
I don’t really want to wear shapeless now even though I know I’m still very fluffy and have a long ways to go. Others may, and do, see me as obese (which I am), but they don’t have the perspective of knowing the amount of weight already lost, the distance already come.
But I’m having trouble knowing how to dress and where to shop. I need to be careful with my money and not go crazy buying clothes that won’t last me as long as those X sizes. I’m tired of shopping in fat lady stores and really really want to find some nice petite plus pants, which is almost impossible. I may go out today and try a few places for one or two pieces since my other pants look like clown pants and are now too long as well as too big.
It’s a good problem to have, don’t get me wrong. But there is a lot of adjusting to do. I’m doing the “inside work” as well as the food/body work – but it also requires work to get the eyes to understand what they actually see. In the meantime, I have a lovely green dress that I won’t be able to wear to the family wedding in June. Guess I will need to go shopping 🙂