I joined my first choir when I was 6. My huge Presbyterian Church had a music program for all age groups, starting with first-third graders, then fourth-sixth graders, junior high girls (the boys’ voices were changing), and high school, plus of course the Senior Choir for the adults. Returning college students sang for Christmas Eve and sometimes in the summer. There was even a Choir Recognition Sunday every spring where choristers moved up to their new choir, getting an age-appropriate hymnal with their names in gold. Moving to the high school choir meant getting your own copy of Messiah. I still have mine.
We learned how to be good choristers. It was more than just learning the music and not poking your neighbor when you were singing. We learned to watch the director like a hawk. We learned how to count, how to breathe, how to mark our music, how to take care of our music and our robes. We learned that not coming to rehearsals had consequences: you couldn’t sing on Sunday if you missed the last rehearsal. We learned not to wear flashy things like red turtlenecks under our robes or dangling earrings because we were to look the same so we didn’t distract the congregation from the words and the music. We learned to worship through our music with every note and every breath.
For most of my life, joining the choir was how I made friends and found community every time I moved. I could sightread and had a decent voice – not a soloist, but an alto who blended smoothly with those around me. I’ve worn purple and white robes while singing in a cathedral choir, but usually black with white in my other Episcopal churches.
Not singing now is hard. While watching the memorial service today for the legendary Brian Jones, my director at Trinity Church, Boston, I found myself breaking into the alto parts I knew so well to the familiar music. I saw beloved faces of friends who were there to sing and knew of others around the country, watching as I was, adding our voices in our own ways. My neighbors may have been overwhelmed by my enthusiasm. I know the cats were confused.
But I also realized as I looked at Trinity that I couldn’t sing in a church choir now even if I had a way to get there — because they all have stairs. Every church throughout my life has needed the choir to navigate stairs to get up into the choir loft, as well as getting from the choir room to the sanctuary in the first place. They’re not accessible for someone like me. There are ways for people to take communion in those churches, but I don’t know how on earth I could ever manage singing from my wheelchair except as I did this morning, singing at home.
So I’m extra grateful now for the opportunities I had with the many choirs I’ve had the great good fortune to sing with. Singing Messiah and requiems and concerts. Singing for weddings and funerals. Going to England. For Candlelight Carols at Trinity and Easter Vigils in Portland and Charlottesville. For the Allegri Miserere and Ubi Caritas and the B-Minor Mass and Faire is the Heaven and Cornerstone. And most of all, singing for a normal Sunday morning liturgy and hearing the sopranos break into a soaring descant on a favorite hymn and knowing I was home.